FOR THE LOVE OF ENEMIES

Being betrayed by someone you least expected to do that. Yeas life is full of disappointments. But who said that it has to disappoint? Who said that it is okay for you to be disappointed? What dictates the time place and nature of disappointment? And who dictated that we have to live with the disappointment?

At time we bury ourselves in graves dug by our enemies. We do finish the job for them before they even start it. The bible always tells us to make the enemy our friends. Often we wonder if such is possible. Here is why it has to be done 

The writers of the holy book were mad. They were filed with the Holy Spirit. And as it is described, when they were filled by the Holy Spirit the rest of the rest of the people thought they had gone berserk. Intuition is the Holy Spirit for the non-believers. 

So this is why we should love our enemies.

•  If we hate our enemies we make it easier for them to hurt us.  If you want to steal money from someone and they say hi to you every day, you will have second guess to do so because they have done nothing but be nice to our everyday. On the other hand if you show them rage, they will not have mercy on you.

•  If you are filled with frenzy it kills you a little bit inside when you see them think about them or at the mention of their name. what if they are in your everyday life, you will end up angry the whole day

• At the end of the day hating a person who dislikes you won’t make them love you. At least not in the world I live in. but showing them kindness will boil up some sense in them. It makes you the bigger person in the room.

• As much as I would want to tie them up and pour barbeque sauce on them before feeding them to my pet tiger, they are really not worth my effort. Yes it will definitely excite my stomach caterpillars as they hatch to butterflies but I can’t risk my freshly manicured nail for that. yes i do love my self way too much.

So if you think you are my enemy you can rest easy honey baby bear ain’t no revenge monster.  Take your long showers and let the self professed enemies struggle to lift their self esteem with you.  

by TyeMB

you need it loosen

The little things that we do ignore, most of the times are the same things that come to bite us in places we should not scratch in public. You wear a tight inner-wear in the morning knowing very well that it is going to supper press you by noon. Then you think that it might just expand miraculously and you will end up being comfortable by mid morning.  You left the house at seven it is not yet eleven and you have adjusted the inner-wear line more than ten times. You are in a meeting and the situation does not allow you to leave to adjust “the line”; you feel like it is going to cut your body symmetrically at the waist line. So you are asking yourself; why did I choose this one? Just to lift my bum and give it the right tight shape that this skirt requires?

Above is the case of Linda Akello the police officer in a tight up skirt. Yeas I know being a fellow woman and writing this article at the same time bring out the WW0 (women war) that has been infinite. But this is not the case I want to present.  

When joining an institution like the police service, I want to believe you are not forced into it. Neither can one persist through the hard trainings undergone there unwillingly. There is also a code of conduct given to the joining candidates. And I think they should be followed supervised and unsupervised.

So when you break the conduct one should be courteous enough to ask for forgiveness.  Not go throwing stones in your own glass house just because “thirsty” Kenyans on twitter and other social media are backing you up. Your decision to fight your mother is always a foolish one.  Going to court to stop your hearings at the police force is not the brightest idea.

Just because your immediate supervisor liked your dressing for his/ her own personal reasons does not mean that you did not break the law. For the sake of safety how does one run in such a tight up skirt. Yours is not a luxurious job as you might want it to seem. Madam Kaindi is not jealous of you. She is too old for such anyway. Not that she is a relative or a close friend.  Just a perspective I would like to see her as.  

Simple rules and partial decisions that we make become the end of us.  If we decide to press the law an inch it does it us 5 inches back just like a boomerang.                                                                                                                                                                                                    

 learn from it and let it go...                                                                                                                                                                                     

MORE OF GIVING IT IS

The 50 Things You Need To Do For A Relationship To Last
JAN. 28, 2014 By TIM HOCH info
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Relationships are tough. Marriage is a tough bitch. And it’s certainly not for everyone. As a lawyer, I have handled a few divorces. Thank goodness there is such an alternative for people trapped in horrible circumstances. But if you’re inclined to weather sickness and health, richer and poorer — and even if you’ve just met the person with whom you want to be in a longterm romance — bring a short memory and a long sense of humor. You’re gonna need it.
1. Burn your blueprint.
Rid yourself of whatever fantasies you harbor about the bliss of coupled life. They’re not helping. There is no script, so don’t be disappointed when your fairytale gets hijacked.

2. Forgive.
Didn’t Jesus say something about forgiving someone not just seven times but seventy times seven? That would be 490 times….which should last you through your first 6 months. Jesus underestimated because, remember, he wasn’t married.

3. And forget.
If you forgive but don’t forget, did you really forgive? I know people who claim to have forgiven but still use every available opportunity to bring it up. And if you don’t want to forgive, forgetting works just as well.

4. Be a good teammate.
Life can come at you hard. One of the nice things about marriage and relationships is being able to have someone else in the bunker when you’re getting shelled.

5. Grow.
If you still have the same desires, opinions and beliefs at age 50 that you did at age 25, that’s your own damn fault. You will not, and should not, be the same person you were then.

6. And adapt.
Even if you stagnate, the person you’re in a relationship with will change. Don’t fight it. Embrace it, learn from it, be thankful for it.

7. Find your faith.
There is great comfort in believing in something or someone beyond our crude human existence. Explore this belief. Take this journey together.

8. Travel together.
Travel forces couples to rely on one another in unpredictable ways. It will also broaden your worldview and the way you value your relationship.

9. Travel separately.
I want to go to Australia and you want to go to Maine? Cool. Take lots of pictures. See you in a week.

10. Develop your own interests.
It seems counter-intuitive, but you will enhance your relationship when you pursue your separate interests.

11. Cultivate a wide, diverse circle of friends.
One of the greatest joys of living is meeting new people. And many of the people you meet will likely make you appreciate your mate even more.

12. Don’t keep score.
I know a couple who keeps track of the number of times each partner completes a household chore. Don’t do this. It’s exhausting. And childish.

13. Exercise.
You owe it to each other to be in the best physical health possible. The mental side effects from exercise will also be beneficial.

14. Practice self-awareness.
Take frequent looks in the mirror. Reflect on who you are and the contributions you are making to your relationship. Are you being judgmental? Unfair? Harsh? Hypercritical? Defensive?

15. Admit that you’re wrong (even, on occasion, when you aren’t).
This is both the easiest and hardest thing to do on this list. But this simple gesture will pay immeasurable dividends; it will help you grow and it’s just the right thing to do.

16. Celebrate accomplishments big and small.
Whether it’s a promotion at work or the police officer let you off with just a warning, find every occasion possible to toast your good fortune.

17. Surprise one another.
Fill up her car. Let him sleep alone in the bed once in a while. Buy some bacon.

18. It’s the good little things.
Holding the door, suggesting a movie night, paying attention. The reward for these is greater than the sum of the parts.

19. And it’s the bad little things.
Cracking your knuckles, spitting, clearing your throat, picking your nose, chewing ice. These are death by a thousand cuts to your relationship.

20. Cultivate your finer qualities.
When do you ever have an opportunity to really work on qualities that make you a better person? In a strong relationship, you can do it every single day. Qualities like patience, loyalty, compassion, trust.

21. The bathroom is private.
If you think it’s quaint to brush your teeth while I use the toilet, you’ll change your mind about that eventually. Trust me.

22. Talk about sex (but not just right before, during, or right after).
Sex is an important part of any relationship. But for some reason couples don’t want to discuss it unless they are in the throes of passion. Don’t make sex a taboo subject.

23. Encourage each other.
We all have insecurities. Your relationship is one place where you should be completely free to reveal these and your spouse should help you overcome them.

24. It’s okay to have secrets.
Even George Bailey slipped Violet Bick a $20 bill every now and then.

25. Avoid subtext.
This is a cowardly way to communicate. If you have something to say, say it. Don’t hint about it.

26. Put it down.
The toilet seat. Her cell phone. The beat.

27. Pick it up.
Your dirty sock. Your used tissue. The pace.

28. Don’t over-romanticize past (or future) relationships.
You weren’t that great and your ex isn’t that hot.

29. Never use the “s” word.
Don’t call each other “stupid.” That’s just stu…. not wise.

30. Offer solutions, not criticism.
Anyone can criticize. A good teammate (See Rule 4) will offer a way out.

31. Read.
To escape or to expand. Either way, it helps.

32. You are equals.
It doesn’t matter which one of you makes the most money. It doesn’t matter which one of you has the better REO Speedwagon vinyl collection. It doesn’t matter which one of you has the best nickname. It doesn’t even matter which one of you has the coolest food allergy.

33. Compliment each other.
Sincerely and often.

34. Respect each other’s friends.
You know your wife’s loud mouthed, insane friend Cathy who thinks you have weak bullshit and can’t believe you married her BFF? See below.

35. Know when to keep your mouth shut.
No list would be complete without the “Do these jeans make my butt look big?” lesson.

36. Indulge each other’s passions.
Scrapbooking doesn’t count.

37. Lose your arbitrary moral code.
This list alone proves that I am the king of the double standard. When I want to spend money on a new set of golf clubs, it’s a good investment. When my wife wants to spend money on new kitchen countertops, she’s a profligate. It’s not exactly fair.

38. Respect space and time.
Have we not evolved as a species or watched enough Dr. Phil to realize our mate does not want to answer the question “How was your day?” the minute he/she walks in the door?

39. Take pride in your appearance.
Your marriage license doesn’t give you a free pass to always wear sweat pants and T-shirts.

40. Maintain good hygiene.
Could your big toenail puncture a snow tire? Could your breath peel wallpaper? Take care of that, please. I don’t want to have to tell you again.

41. Ask before you throw it away.
Don’t touch that broken, ceramic, animated cactus tequila shot glass holder. I’m serious.

42. Invite his/her family to special gatherings.
At least once. Thankfully, this may be all you need.

43. Speaking of family, everyone gets a holiday card and a birth announcement.
Even your creepy Uncle Steve and their psycho cousin Lisa.

44. Don’t be petty.
So I forgot to stop at the store to get your prescription. Did you have to throw away my ceramic cactus shot glass holder?

45. Be self-sufficient.
Learn to do your own laundry. Know how to cook a meal; how to navigate the grocery store; how to make an online purchase; how to turn off the water to the house; how to erect a Nerf basketball hoop; how to unclog a toilet.

46. Everything is fair game for a joke.
This should be at the heart of everything you do. I have not found a single thing that I have been unable to eventually laugh about. If you know this from the beginning, it makes things a lot more fun.

47. Have good manners.
Don’t yell. Open the door. Help carry the groceries. Cover your cough. Hold your gas.

48. Be responsible with money.
No one lives on love. You need money. If you earned it, you will almost certainly respect it. If you didn’t earn it, you must respect it even more.

49. Remember to say thank you.
Even and especially when things don’t seem like they need to be acknowledged.

50. Adapting beats abandoning.
There will be moments when you want to quit, walk out, give up. You can do that. But you will probably be doing so without giving due consideration to the new life that awaits you. Will you be better off in six months? 10 years?

I don't feel the need to add anything to this.

♡TyeMb♥

The chiffon menance

The rate at which am aging is really worrying me. Aging in this context is not the skin lingering type but the mindset. You know you are old when you start critiquing the fashion stream being worn by everyone else  but you.

I want to believe that sanity is also aging if it has not died. Or it is being ignore by most of us women. Chiffon is the new easy way of walking nude in publics. How else can I explain someone  fully clothed yet I can tell her bra color and design. I can see her Boobiez stretch marks and the fat on their tummy.

worse of all this is the women who have extra abdomen which are circulars , and have the guts to  walk in the 'superseethrough' material. Why then are we wearing the clothes? it is not any better than wraping a towel and walking in town with it...

To make matters worse, the chiffon is being worn with coloured bras. Or has Nairobi city become a fashion highway for Victoria secrets? And y dint I get the memo then?

when all these is done, women go around complaing they are not geting husbands . Which  sane man will take you to his mother when he has seen your wardrobe malfunction.  What people refuse to accept in this generation is that "how you dress will determine how you will be addressed" and I might be tempted to add undressed.

Men love challenges,  if they have no treasure to hunt because they have seen it all,  they won't chase the map around. 

I believe the designer of  strap tops and vests was not as idle to design a clothing that was not needed... Make good use of them.

the tights syndrome

The inventor of these elastic cotton thing being worn as bottoms should be really proud of themselves. walk in the streets of Nairobi and confirm that every 3 of 5 in feeling fashionable in then.though what most of us do not understand is that Not every fashionable item best suits our body size and shape. neither are some of it's(tights) design appealing.

1.flabby and chubby thighs should not be under this type of clothing.all the fat formation is displayed for the public due to the light nature of the material. if you have this.type of body, a bottom with firm material is the best for you since it smoothens your cellulites.

2.torn leggings/tights. Maybe it part of the fashion syndrome that am negatively strident of. But if it's worn out, throw it out. I am disturbed by running stoking. So much that I would rather pull them off and get cold bumps on my skin. This makes torn tights worse because I loth them and now they are torn.

3.animal prints tights. Ths tight inventor went admit to far at this point. Single dull colours cool. But animal patterns??? How dimmer can the light get? Some of you go to the extents of mixing the tights with animal print tops/ shoes. 

4. I will end by upholding those who make me want to own a pair. The leather striped  tights/leggings. Worn with a nice dress top or the classic high_low tops they close the deal. My point is not all tights a are ugly, yet not all of us can fit into them.

pike

born in  a merger they wanted you to become a major.what time is it? 4:10 i said. the last word you ever uttered. in a deep sleep i fell. the angle of death was passing. our song  was playing i was fast taken. it bypassed me and came to you. i still want to be on the Forbes magazine smiling next to opra and the queen.
i asked why you of all people.but who would i have wished to be taken in your place? we all retreated to solitude. keeping memories to selves.

the Major seemed to be missing, at that point no decision good enough as to the way forward.the cord i could cut but i took too long. guilt of being there and doing nothing. seeing daddy  cry tore heart apart.

the beauty of life faded desires of the heart too. could i walk head high again, could conscience be clear, free and futuristic ;clear the last image of thy .

the master ,a father and friend. self control no drugs no bad company the up keep of good morals. how appropriate could they have been. casting problems away. tossing wine and spirits.

talking was not an option it neither is. trust is something i have lost. the people that are ment to figure model turn against. who is it that you talk to?
and if you talk then what? is sanity restored? is life brought back? is it not stigma that we put upon self? is self pity not enough?

today we cry tomorrow is another day.we smile and laugh deep down we cry. yet again we have life what more could you ask for??? but how to live from there. what to smile about. hypocrisy ,double personality living someone's life. who is living in thy's? what recognition  do we have of self.

dress well eat well do no evil' see no evil, hear no evil.perfect life  thought. but not a day without anger, a week without a tear. nor  a month without a heart break .still a perfect life???deep rooted in success but no access to soul perspect .

Time

They say friendships make the best relationships. This might be true our not. They also say love makes marriages. But I believe in commitment... I say that love can not sustain my marriage but my willingness top put up with the person.
I know this brings us to the question "what is love?" If you are waiting for me to answer that ;I hope you are patient enough to wait for me to found the right answer.
he was first a friend. At a very difficult time in my existence. He offered a shoulder to lean on and I got comfortable on it. The rest of these story is still being written.
The truth is there were some aspects in him I did not like. I was not sure I would cope with them. At that moment, I had the choice to leave and look for something more pleasing
today I don't recognize those aspects.maybe its because I choose to ignore and look at the others that I liked or they went away. But what I remember is... He had told me 'give me time'.
Take time be patient and the earth will seem an easy place to live on.